If you are ready to get married and you are unsure if your man feels the same, there are more than a few tell-tale signs that will give you the answer if he won’t be honest with you outright.
Paying attention to these signs can save you a lot of heartache and wasted time because you will realize that the future you are planning is likely not going to happen.
And, rather than give up your dream of one day walking down the aisle, you can simply give up on that relationship of yours that is going nowhere fast and find a partner who wants the same thing as you.
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Here are 10 signs your man is not ready for marriage:
He’s broken up with you several times
If breaking up to make up is the way he constantly operates in your relationship, he is certainly not ready for the lifetime commitment of marriage. A man who breaks up with you for the smallest, most insignificant things is playing with your emotions and showing you that he won’t stick around when things get tough. Both of these traits are not what you want in a future husband.
He makes negative comments about marriage
Pay attention to what he says. If he repeatedly makes negative comments about marriage every time
the subject comes up, he’s basically telling you that he has no interest in it. Instead of brushing his comments off and hoping that you can change his opinion, store those comments in your mind and refer back to them the next time you think about wanting to marry him.
If you are dealing with a selfish man, he won’t do put you first because he’s not ready to be married. If it’s always about him in the relationship and he treats you as an afterthought, that’s who he is and who he will continue to be. Selfishness has no place in a marriage, so save yourself the trouble and stop fantasizing about something that won’t happen.
When he talks about his future it doesn’t include you
When a man is truly invested in being with you, not only does he show his love through his actions, but he’s also thinking about a future for the two of you. This includes career and living decisions, as well as getting married and having a family. Listen to him closely, if he’s is always speaking about his future in “I” terms instead of “we,” chances are he doesn’t see you as a fixture in his future and marrying you is not on his radar.
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He doesn’t show interest in getting to know your family
A man who wants to marry you will go out of his way to make sure they establish some sort of relationship with your family. If your man shows no interest in forming a relationship with your family, that is definitely a sign that he’s not thinking about forever. Avoiding accompanying you to family gatherings or going on family vacations are both signs, but if he has a generally standoffish attitude around your family that is a red flag as well.
He changes the subject when the topic of marriage comes up
This is the most obvious sign. If your man quickly changes the subject every time you or anyone else brings up marriage, then you already have your answer as it relates to your man having wedding bells on his mind.
Now, in some cases men will act nonchalant about the topic of marriage in an effort to throw you off and surprise you. However, if he’s been doing this for years, he’s not trying to surprise you; he just doesn’t want to get married.
He constantly downplays your relationship to his family & friends
When you are truly in love with someone you don’t hesitate to tell anyone who will listen about them. A man who is just using you to pass the time will consistently downplay your relationship and your role in his life. You have to ask yourself why you even want to be with someone who doesn’t proudly tell everyone how much you mean to him.
He’s overly critical of you
Putting up with constant criticism in your relationship is something that no one should ever have to go through. A man who always points out your faults and flaws is not someone you want to marry at all. A future husband should be celebrating you every chance he gets and if he doesn’t, then you need to end the relationship. There’s a fine line between criticism and verbal abuse.
He’s very indecisive
The inability to decide on things, in a long-term relationship, is not exactly a husband-like trait. One
day he feels this way, the next day he’s on a completely different vibe, this behavior is what causes broken engagements and canceled wedding plans. You want someone who is firm in their decision to be with you for the long haul, instead of a man who changes the intensity of his feelings as frequently as the weather.
He still has a wandering eye
If your man is still looking, entertaining and pursuing other women, then he is extremely far away from being married. Men who are on the marriage track are so in love with their future wife that they don’t even have the desire to think about other women. This behavior is also a gateway to repeated infidelity, so you need to address it immediately.