It is a great achievement when you and your partner move into your own house after years of living in rented apartments. You have done something many couples can only dream of but this new phase can come with a lot of surprises, the good, bad and interesting ones.
Living in your own house won’t only feel different because it comes with different responsibilities in terms of taking care of the home, but it will also make your relationship with your significant other feel different.
Here are things you should after moving into your own with your partner.
You will feel financially stressed
You and your partner may suffer from a little buyer’s remorse immediately after purchasing your home. You may wonder if you overspent money. This could lead to some bickering and a dive in your sex life. But you both can work on it so that you can enjoy your new house.
You will disagree over decoration
You both will be staying in this house for a while unlike your rented apartment. You have free reign to select the curtains, decorate the living room and renovate the kitchen any way you like. This is very liberating, but it also leads to a lot of disagreement about paint colour, toilet type, curtain texture, chair colour and so on.
You will host more
Moving to your own home will make you want to open up your home for dinner parties and barbecues as well as hosting your friend’s birthday party whose apartment is small. You may find that you really love the art of hosting. You may even start learning some tips and tricks on the subject.
You will fix things yourselves
The landlord isn’t going to find a contractor to fix a leaky pipe. If something is broken, you and your partner have to find contractors, compare and contrast prices, and handle the project from start to finish yourselves. This can be a bit overwhelming for couples as your partner may want to haggle with contractors while you just want to settle on a price quickly.
You won’t argue with your partner over clutter anymore
Maintaining good storage space is one of the secrets to a good relationship. Having enough personal storage space can certainly put an end to bickering lines couples are used to like, “How come you have way more closet space than I do?” and “Are you ever going to put your clothes away?!”
You in-laws will visit more
When you have a large house, your in-laws feel more encouraged to visit you, especially those residing outside your state of residence. Some friends and family members may have only been able to stand staying in your apartment for a couple of days, but now, they may come really stretch their legs in your house for weeks at a time.
You could spend more time apart
When you live in an apartment, you naturally spend more time with your significant other. There aren’t many places to hide from each other, so you are usually in the same room, if not just one room apart. When you live in a house, you may find yourself thinking, “I haven’t seen my man or woman in like, three hours” and yelling, “Honey! Are you alive down there?”
You will feel isolated at first
You won’t hear the noises of people living above you, below you, and sharing a wall with you. This is certainly helpful if you are a light sleeper, or if you just can’t stand to hear other people arguing, playing music or praying. But it can also feel very isolating at first. It’s just you and your family alone, somewhere. You can’t even step outside your door to chat with any of your neighbours like you used to.
You can plan more for the future
Something about moving into a house removes certain blockages in your brain that were keeping you from thinking about the future. You may find yourselves talking about things you never discussed before, like how you would like new business ventures, vacation spots and retirement choices.
You may not live near friends anymore
If your friends all live in apartments and you now live in a house, you may spend more time going to visit them depending on traffic. When make a point to see your friends after moving, it may take a lot of planning just to make sure you spend quality time with them.