Last week we talked about what you should do when the relationship is no longer working. In line with this, I want to do a recap on what men really want from their partners. Given the variables itemized in earlier piece, women would find the tips below useful in the quest to foster “couple hood” between them and their partners. Read on…
. Exercising his authority and allowing him male dominance: do not attempt to change your spouse: allow him to be himself. If he loves steak, give him steak but buy lean meat to aid his healthy behavior.
. Do not change the music station that he loves in his car; buy an iPod and love your music using headphones while driving with him in his car. Of course, if it is your car and he is the passenger, he listens to your music.
. Allowing him to maintain his sense of freedom: do not stop him from hanging with the guys for Super Bowl Sunday; just insist on catering the event in your own home. This way, he is home and his friends are all with him. He will be so proud that his wife is an angel without knowing why you do what you do.
. Solving the formidable in-law syndrome: do not stop him from visiting his mother who lives 100 miles away every Saturday: be sure to prepare his favorite food and pack a basket for him to take to his mom. He will forever sing your praises to his mama about how you take care of him.
. Allowing him his ego and maintaining his sexual prowess: do not withhold him from having sex with you even when you have a headache; prepare yourself mentally ‘to be in it’ by fantasizing about your wedding night which was so long ago. This should make you reach orgasm quickly.
. Maintaining economic and financial harmony: do not withhold money from him; just maintain a separate account for “emergencies” where you tap into to advance that $1000 that he promises to pay but never does. Be sure to set a limit like, no more than $1500 every three months to go to him if he asks. This way, if he never pays back, you never get upset because it is within your allowable limit.
We would focus on this topic in the next couple of issues and would also like to hear from women about what they want from their men. Please write to me on these topics so we can all learn from each other by engaging in healthy and rich dialogue on this topic.
ν Dr. NJ