Some people claim that a “little” jealousy is good for your relationship or marriage. They also say that when your partner is jealous, it means that he or she really cares.

If you struggle with jealousy, you probably know how painful and destructive it can be. Not only is jealousy not good for your relationship, it’s not good for you either.

Jealousy is one of the things that can cause major rifts in your relationship and may gradually destroy whatever you have built with your partner if you are not careful.

It is normal that jealousy can arise in your relationship but uncontrolled jealousy can become a relationship killer. It can make you and your partner drift apart more and more.

When you make a place for jealousy in a relationship, all it does is leave you frustrated and ruin your peace of mind. Jealousy is not good for your relationship and not working on it can destroy you and your partner from inside out.

Here are ways jealousy is slowly killing your relationship:

It feeds on your fears

When you become jealous, you allow your fears to grow. You think something is wrong and start to prepare yourself for it. It’s your actions and thoughts that may pave way for the dreaded situations and make your fears come alive.

It makes you obsessed about spying 

When you fear to lose someone you start becoming obsessed. You start to follow and stalk each and every move of theirs without realizing that you are ceasing their personal space and freedom. You become so obsessed that you can’t think about their freedom and space except them.

It damages the trust your partner feels toward you

Jealousy causes you to mistrust your partner, and he/she may begin to mistrust you too. Your partner isn’t sure what will set you off and what won’t. He/she will be more cautious and reserved around you because you might say you’re “okay” one minute and then get angry because of jealousy the next. This makes it tough for your partner to trust that you’ll be honest and that you’ll really listen and not jump to conclusions.

It’s toxic for you

The human body responds and reacts to their emotions instantly. It produces the similar chemical of what they are experiencing and feeling. If you are jealous or upset, your body is going to produce chemicals that will make it more toxic. Toxic thoughts and emotions turn our body into a toxic system that can have some unwanted negative effects on us.

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It makes you suffer

If you are the one who is jealous, then ultimately you will be the one who will suffer. You will be the one who feels all the negative emotions and that means you have to fight the battle alone. In the end, you suffer at the hands of this slow poison called jealousy.

It makes you seek to control your partner

Jealousy gives you the urge to control and dominate your partner. You keep trying to dominate and control them and their actions because you fear to lose them. But you forget that you can only control your actions and emotions and not others.

It consumes your time

When you get jealous or make space for toxic thoughts in your mind, you tend to spend your time thinking about what bad can happen rather than focusing on the positive side and producing positive thoughts. This will rob you of happy moments in your relationship.

It gives birth to excessive possessiveness

Obsession, by all means, leads to possessiveness. A bit of possessiveness is acceptable in all relationship but when that exceeds, it starts to kill your relationship. You don’t own anyone and nobody owns you! It shows that lack of trust and compatibility between you two.

It may wreck your relationship

It’s always easy to ruin a relationship than to nurture and make it. When you keep questioning their love, wreck their personal space, stalk them, try to control them and poke into his/her life too much it simply means that you don’t trust them enough. Love cannot blossom without trust and such insecurities lurking in your mind will only act as a deterrent in your relationship.

It destroys your peace

When you get jealous, you are ruining your peace of mind and health. It only affects you because nobody else can know and feel what you are going through.

It causes your partner to question staying in the relationship

 At some point, your partner is going to wonder if this is worth the drama and pain and whether or not he/she should stay in the relationship or leave it. Though your partner may love you deeply, the unfair accusations, mistrust and interrogations can become too much.