Relationships work when couples make conscious efforts to make one another happy. If anything you want to do with your friends, job, or any other part of your life would leave your partner hurt or neglected, that’s something you shouldn’t do.
When you truly love your partner, you will do what you can to prevent other parts of your life from negatively affecting your relationship. When you are not in this kind of loving relationship, you feel it in your heart that you are not your partner’s first priority and that hurts.
Here are signs you aren’t your man’s first priority.
He won’t put anything in his calendar
He will never physically open his calendar and write down an event you would like him to make time for. That’s because he doesn’t want to be held accountable if he forgets and makes other plans. That’s because he absolutely wants the freedom to forget and make other plans.
You always get last minute notice
He has never given you more than 24 hours notice about an event. He’s certainly never called you and asked you to reserve a day that’s two weeks in the future, for him. And that’s because he only calls you when he notices that, by chance, he has some free time and nobody else to hang out with.
He doesn’t celebrate with you
The man you call your boyfriend has planned himself a birthday party with his friends and invited you. He didn’t plan it with you. He didn’t wait to see if you wanted to throw something for him. He believed his two friends were better suited to be the co-hosts of his celebration than his romantic partner.
He’s never on time
If your partner is never on time that’s because he’s always trying to squeeze the last bit of time out of his other obligations, before seeing you. He would rather shorten his time with you than shorten his time anywhere else. If you were a priority, he would leave other people a little earlier to make sure he got to date night on time.
He’s always in a rush
Your boyfriend seems to squeeze you in between things. When you meet up for the afternoon, he somehow always has plans later he needs to get to. There is always a strict expiration on your hangout time. He’s never just put aside a whole afternoon for you. It’s almost like he’s just checking an obligation off his list by seeing you.
He socially multitasks
He always tries to invite other people to what was supposed to be a one-on-one occasion. He basically wants to receive credit for hanging out with you, but doesn’t want doing so to take away from his time with other people.
He only comes over if he would be in the area anyways
When you ask him when he can come over, he looks at his calendar to see which day he will already be in the area anyways. A totally free, empty day isn’t good enough reason to see you—he will only come over if he can double up on social obligations in your neighbourhood.
He always asks who else will be there
When you invite your boyfriend to a party or dinner, he asks who else will be there. It isn’t enough that you will be there. He doesn’t think the party is worth his time unless there will be several other of his friends there.
He fills up his schedule without consulting you
Your boyfriend tells you what he’s doing this weekend, and his weekend is already pretty full. He never calls you to ask if you wanted to do anything with him that weekend before filling it with plans with other people. Instead, he tells you what few pockets of time he has open and tries to squeeze you into them.
He must have things his way
Your partner is very pushy about having things his way. He always pushes for the restaurant he wants to eat at, the movie he wants to see, or the vacation he wants to take. It seems like time with him is more about the activity than being together.