My first sexual experience was horrible–Laide Bakare


By Christian Agadibe

The dream of every parent is for their children to follow in their foot steps but not for popular actress, Laide Bakare. For reasons best known to her, Laide has insisted that her daughter would rather not become an actress like her. In as much as she wants her to become famous, it would be in another profession not acting.

The Oyo State-born actress and University of Ibadan graduate of Theatre Arts opened up to The Entertainer on her rise to stardom, her sex life and relationship with pop singer, 9ice. Excerpts:

What have you being doing lately?

I just made a multi-million naira movie. The movie is entitled, Jejere and it features 9ice who played a major role including talented actors like Emeka Ike, Akin Lewis, and Fathia Balogun among others. It has really taken a lot of my energy because it is not just about me but basically about being a business woman and entrepreneur, someone that invested so much in a production company called, Simline Records. The company is borne out of my love for music and the arts. My interest is solely to help identify, grow and support talented youths.

What’s the main focus of your movie, Jejere?

Simline is putting together a world-class event to officially unveil and present these projects. The event tagged: “The Laide Bakare Experience” will witness the premiere of the movie, “Jerere” and official presentation of my record label and its artistes. The event would be rounded off with a concert that will feature performances by King Wasiu Ayinnde, T-code and 9ice among others. It will take place at Orchid Hotel, Lekki, Lagos on Sunday January 13, 2013. When you make a good movie and interpret it, it doesn’t matter the language. I went extra length to make a good quality movie, which talks about bad leadership, discrimination against women, love and culture. The movie will be in major cinemas from this month.

At what time did you decide to be a filmmaker?

It has always been my passion to be a filmmaker. My coming into the movie industry actually started from the idea of me being a filmmaker and a business woman. Though, I have been carried away with acting, I knew that deep inside me I will make good movies one day. So, when the time came, I gave it full attention. That’s exactly what I am doing now though, I produced my first movie in my second year at the university. So far I have done about 12 movies. I am never in a hurry to make movies. I do movies that will impact society positively.

How did you venture into movie industry?

I never planned to go into acting. At a point I thought about going into politics, but I don’t like Nigerian politics. My father owns a hotel and movie people used to come and shoot in the hotel. So, anytime they needed help, I was the one providing it for them. Among my father`s children, I was the only one that was assisting them. Then, I was a teenager, about 16 years old and was about to go to University of Ibadan to study Theatre Arts, most of them encouraged me to start acting while I was still in school.

How did your parents feel when you wanted to join tbe movie industry, did they object?

My parents never objected to my acting career. In fact, they supported my very first production. I remember my mum cooked for me on location.  At the time, I was in school and my father had bought a camera for me to produce my movie. My dad has been supporting the movie industry for a long time. I will say from day one, my dad and mum had been there for me. They stood by me even when some actors were trying to look down on me because they thought that making movie is only for old people, but my parents encouraged me. Today, a lot of actresses have learnt from me to take bold steps.

Tell us about your background?

My dad is from Ibadan, Oyo State and my mum is from Oshogbo in Osun State. I grew up here in Lagos and my father owns a hotel and construction company. I graduated from University of Ibadan.

What was your growing up like?

My growing up was very interesting because we have one boy and some females. We have always been popular in our area because our street is named after my father, that is Bakare Street. So, people in the community used to call us Bakare girls. While growing up within the neighborhood, I have always been popular but sometimes I would just pretend I didn’t know.

What is your relationship with 9ice

9ice acted a major role in the movie, Jejere. I am surprised because I don’t know what prompted the story that 9ice and I are dating. Some people like to create something out of nothing. There is nothing of such between us. We are just friends. I am too big for that kind of rumour.

Do you have any plan to produce English movies ?

I can make English movies. I am a movie maker, it doesn’t matter what genre of movie. I have an English movie that I am working on, and very soon we would produce it.

What is the craziest thing a fan has done to you?

They said I am a short woman. But I am not short. As a matter of fact, my stature doesn’t stop me from being who I am. But it can be embarrassing sometimes.

How long have you been married?

Yes, I am married for so long. I don’t like discussing my family, that’s my private life. I have one kid. But I don’t want to talk about that.

How do you strike balance between your job and the home front?

It is God. I won`t talk about my family because that’s what I so much cherish. I so much treasure my daughter and my husband. I treasure them a lot. I avoid anything that will affect them. I don’t want to have problem with my family. I don’t want to put them in the public eye. I would rather keep it to myself.

Most men would like to date a pretty lady like you. How do you handle stubborn male admirers?

Most of them know that I am married. Even if they are crazy about me, they should know that I am married. Actually, there is nothing to talk about them. I don’t like talking about man or woman affairs. It’s one thing I don’t really like to talk about.

What challenges do you encounter as an actress?

The only time I had challenges was when I was in the university. It was not easy struggling with education and work. Struggling with my education and the birth of my baby was also a challenge. At a time, I needed to leave school to go and have my baby so, all those things were challenging. I had to travel out of the country to meet my husband and then come back. I was always going out and coming in.

How do you cope since your husband is based abroad?

We always keep in touch. We travel to meet him over there and he also comes home to be with us. That’s how we have been coping. We are here today, we are in America tomorrow. But it has been fun. We create time for work, either his work or my own work. It might not work for other families but it works for us.

Can you fight over love?

I believe in love but not to the extent of fighting or committing suicide or even killing someone over it because life must go on. I don’t believe that love is blind. I believe in love but you have to open your eyes widely to see it.

Is there any part of your body you cannot expose no matter the offer?

Yes, of course, my private part. I have to keep it, I can`t expose it. But I can expose my back and legs. I can expose the whole of my back. That’s all.

Your husband wouldn’t feel bad about exposing any part of your body?

No, he can`t feel bad. He loves what I am doing as an actress. He encourages me and he wants me to do more.

How did you feel about your first kiss on screen?

I cannot remember it because it was not memorable. It was a long time and it was not passionate.

When did you start having sex?

I didn’t start having sex at early age. It took me a very long time even though it was something I had always been looking forward to. I looked up to it almost three years before I eventually had sex. It wasn’t a nice experience with my first boyfriend. We dated for six years and we had sex after four years of our relationship. I was 18 when I met my first boyfriend. I was still a virgin then, even while in the movie industry for close to three years. I think the first time I had sex I was about 21 years old. It was what I had been looking forward to, but it wasn`t a nice experience.

What makes a good actress?

It’s the ability to interprete all the roles given, any role at all.

Would you allow your daughter to go into movies?

No. I don’t like it, may be, something else but definitely not the movie industry. I don’t know why I don’t want to involve my daughter in that line. It is not easy handling things and all that. I love my daughter to be popular, but probably in other profession not in the movie industry.

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  1. @umazi, so everything about you is bang! bang!! bang!!!
    You can keep a girl you love to marry for five years without having sex if two of you start dating at early age of 15 and 19 respectively. It is a thing of joy for a man to dis virgin his wife because that gives him much confidence and trust on the woman but i am fully aware it is only one out of 100 you can have that now simply because of high level of poverty and all other social factors that pervade the entire country.
    My only pity on this pretty lady is that she lost her virginity at that ripe age to a guy she did not marry
    I know guys like Umazi is only crazy to bang a any girl that comes their way.

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  3. Dele & Ibrahim, how many virgins have u disvirgind and u expect to marry a virgin, I lost mine at 21 to dis guy I wanted to marry but jilted him and married another. Even ur mothers were not virgins when they got married. Mine was a sweet experience.

  4. Some of youths thought love is always about sexual intercourse due to lack of understanding, culture, religion and moral. Dis-virgin your wife is big pride to both of you and security for the women. We have exotic culture in all tribes but it has been raped and watered down by so called civilization.
    In olden days, it was rear to marry dis virgin wife unless otherwise is proved. If you dis virgin your wife, you will feel comfortable and relaxed and put everything on trust. Many ladies had uncountable sexual intercourse before marriage that cause a lot fracas and rift in the marriage.
    In nutshell, you can keep your girl friend more than five years without sexual intercourse. Our society has been polluted and destroyed. We should go back to our culture, then, marriage institution can be redeemed culturally and religiously. Aliamudullilah that i had opportunity to dis virgin my wife.

  5. Nduka Felix mobolaji uzuh on

    Women should make sure men they give their body to, are those men who are ready to marry them. And another thing i like about olaide bakere, is that she did’nt hide this story from her husband. Because if her husband hadn’t already known about this story, she (olaide) wouldnt have felt so comfortable saying it to the press. Two people in a relationship should not hide any of their secrets from their partner.

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  7. Onuoha success on

    That 1 na lier, grls na tipical liers, this is an open public interview i expect u too say dis way as dicent grl, bt 4 dat sex life as u said na lier, u cnt enter movie industry wit out been fuck nonsence there,tah we kwn wht u guys kwn

  8. Onuoha success on

    That 1 na lier, grls na tipical liers, this is an open public interview i expect u too say dis way as dicent grl, bt 4 dat sex life as u said na lier, u cnt enter movie industry wit out been fuck nonsence there,tah we kwn wht u guys kwn.

  9. Actualy she was n’t saying d truth even if i should be i her shoes i will n’t say d hole truth abt my sexual life, so u guys should n’t expert d hole truth frm her.

  10. Love is not all about sex. your purpose of entering into a relationship determines what you do when you get there,l met a girl when l was 25yrs old and we had marriage agreement.We dated for 5 solid yrs without seeing each other’s colour of pant. Though the marriage did not work out between the both of us, but we got married the same month and now we’ve 2 kids each and we’re still friends, she stays in Abuja with her husband and l’m Lagos with my own family, and we regularly communicate to each other and my wife knows her very well. So if you desire a girl just for sex, as soon as you get it,you run away.

  11. actress,if u could tell us when u lost ur virginity to a preson that is not ur present husband,what is the need of saying u cannot expose ur private part or discuss ur family,it is just like not understanding that six & half dozen are the same.

  12. Abayomi Adeleke on

    Liar!!!I don’t believe her sex story,I can bet you that an average nigerian girl lose her virginity at the age of 15 years,I used to go out with a girl who always told me she was a virgin,I gave her so much respect that I never asked her for sex,one day i went to her house and i met a guy having sex with her in her father’s couch.Nigerian girls are always liars.

  13. What real baffles me is that in the past, when there was no christianity and islamic religions, you could easily find virgins among our women. But now that we have both religions even more active here than Rome and Saudi arabia, you can hardly find virgin, are we hypocrite or is it civilization that is playing fast one on us?

  14. @ Moses, you made true comment on this issue because in the good old days when Islam and Christianity were not embraced with craze like these days, our Mothers and grand Mothers were very proud to keep their virginity until the night they stepped into their husbands’ homes but the reverse is the case when we now have tens of hundreds of churches and mosques all over the place..
    I know Africa will be better character wise if we go back to the real ways and manners our fathers and mothers were born and brought up.
    The reasons of youth deliquesces and general decadence in our society these days is because our Pastors and other religious leaders do not preach anything other that ways to amaze wealth either by hook or crook while mothers and fathers do not look after what their children do and who they associate with unlike those days when they monitored your movements and those friends you mixed up with in your schools and neighborhoods.

  15. Relationship is not all about sex but love,thus love is lust when sex is involved….hence sex outside marriage is Demonic….God Gave a man a woman as a Helper……that is when God is involved….

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