Some people believe that finding love after 40 is difficult. But as life is unpredictable, falling in love is also not a one size fits all. As the famous saying that ‘life begins at 40,’ many women have found their soul mates after hitting the landmark age. Their stories will warm your hearts.
Mary: Some people said I couldn’t keep a man when I clocked 40
My husband is extremely supportive. He is always encouraging me. He’s my rock, my protector. And you know what, honestly, I thought it would never happen to me. I have gone through many things in life. Some people even said I couldn’t keep a man. My mother was advised to take me somewhere for deliverance. I wondered why I can’t find someone to really love me. For me, was it ever going to happen?’ I’m a 43-year-old woman but was never married. So for me, I kept the faith and hope and it happened for me in a way I never expected. It had to be God.
Amaka: I had given up hope of finding my soul mate
I got engaged to the man of my dreams at 44. I had given up hope of finding my soul mate when this happened. We have been married for two years and I am glad I waited.
Before he found me, I was focused on what I wanted in my personal life and the type of man I wanted to spend my life with. And by being focused with that and setting my destination in that place, I was able to align with my husband when he showed up. He told me ‘I’m here and I want what you want too.’
I don’t live my life with relationship rules because I have had terrible experiences with men. I didn’t bother about it anymore even when people were making fun of me and some married friends deserted me for the fear of me sleeping with their husbands. Today, I am the happiest woman in the world. Love found me after 40. I am blessed.
Martha: I went for blind dates and got a great man in the process
At 46, I am engaged to the most caring and loving man on earth. I didn’t while away my time waiting for Prince Charming to come and rescue me from singlehood. I went back to school. earned different degrees, focused on my business. But while doing all these, I was open for blind dates and meet ups where I interacted with men who were also searching for life partners. I didn’t bring in the baggage from my previous relationships into this one and it worked.
Bunmi: You have to put yourself in the dating game to find love
I got married last year at the 43. I wanted a relationship, but I wasn’t putting any effort into it and made no room in my life for a man. I had faith that God was going to send me a man, but what was I doing? You can’t go home every weekend and just sit there. You have to put yourself in the game. Faith without works is dead. I put myself on the scene and my efforts were rewarded.
Ebunoluwa: I didn’t give up on love after my first marriage
I got married at 42 last year. I was previously in an abusive marriage and had a daughter with my first husband. People thought I would give up on love or think twice before walking down the aisle again, but I didn’t allow that terrible marital experience define my whole life.
You never know what you will find and where you will find it when it comes to falling in love. I was on vacation with my daughter and wasn’t looking for anything when I met my present husband. I had been alone for years, raising my daughter and divorced for ten years when it happened. We started a conversation at an eatery my daughter and I frequented. He accepted me for who I was after a wonderful first date of talking about ourselves. We found out we had a lot of things in common. Three years later we were married.
Linda: I found love when I wasn’t searching
I am 46. I got engaged to my boyfriend last year. Women who are extremely driven to success and ambitious get to a point in their lives where they discover they are over 30 without a husband and children. What helped me get my man was staying on course. I believe that it’s going to happen when it’s supposed to happen. It doesn’t happen for everyone at the same time, so you can’t compare your life to someone else’s.
Even though many women claim they don’t need a man because they have material things. The truth is that we all need someone to share our lives with. At some point in your life, you won’t want to walk alone. I found love at 45 when I wasn’t searching.
Nonye: At 40, I fell in love with man who is everything to me
I got married at 41. People think the first time you fall in love, it’s the last time. That’s not true! I fell in love with a man who was everything I wanted in a man and more, at 40.
You are going to attract what you are. If bad men keep showing up in your life, you need to take a look at yourself hard. And because age was no longer on my side, I made efforts to stay away from play boys who just wanted sex. I prepared and went out to date men who knew what they wanted in a woman. I dated for my priority, not for my preference. My marriage is blissful
Opeyemi: My true love didn’t come in the way I expected
I got married at 42 in 2014. I went out of my way to make sure I married the right man for me. In my 20s, I had an idea what my type of man was but it didn’t work until I clocked 40. I thought that if it didn’t work for me, I had to change it and it clicked. I became more open to dates and getting to know men within my own age bracket. Over the years, it dawned on me that my true love may not come in the shape or size or colour that I assume he would come in. I chose my husband from the available options I had then and I made the right choice.
Nneka: I didn’t give up on finding true love after 40
When I hit 40 and still unmarried, my family members told me to look for a married man that would impregnate me so that I could have a child before I waste away waiting to get married. I refused because I knew there was a man out there for me. They made a mockery of me. My friends kept telling me to marry any man who said hello to me. But I didn’t lose my cool.
Of course, there were times I would cry my eyes out and ask God why he has forsaken me. One day, I boarded a plane to another part of the country for a seminar and that was where my love was hiding all these while. We connected instantly. He didn’t judge my age or my relationship standards. We started dating and people were raising their noses at us. But we got married two years later. I was 43 and we are blessed with twins for full measure. My life is peaceful.