People display some behaviours that make them look cheap. Most of these behaviours were picked up from childhood and are seen as nothing, but it cast people in a bad light.
There are people whose neighbours see as pests because they are always needy and no day passes without them coming to knock on their doors to borrow one thing or the other.
If they are not borrowing phone charger, money or bringing their phones to charge in your house today, they want to borrow matches or just run out of gas and need to finish cooking their food in your kitchen because they don’t have a back up stove. They also borrow car battery, engine oil, wheel spanner, salt, just name it.
They are on your door at odd hours asking if they can get pure water because they forgot to buy some earlier in the day. Sometimes, these people borrow not because they can’t afford it, but because they are not organized
Meanwhile these neighbours you bombard with your many borrowings have never come to your own house to borrow anything. They don’t borrow from you not because they have everything in abundance, but because they plan their lives. Whatever they cannot access, they manage without disturbing anyone.
Some parents make their children run such errands, thereby teaching their kids the bad habit of borrowing. By sending them to your neighbours to borrow on your behalf, it will soon become a part of them. They will grow up to see borrowing or depending on people for things they can afford as a way of life.
Manage your time, life and money, learn to draw a list of things to buy, by so doing you won’t forget to buy important things and won’t be at your neighbour’s doors disturbing them for things you can afford. Respect is earned.
If you are the type that returns home late at night, please have the courtesy of calling your gateman or whoever is in charge to come and open the gate. Stop blarring your horn at such ungodly hour and waking everyone in your neighborhood up just because you refused to be sensitive to other people’s freedom to sleep peacefully.
If there are combined bills to be paid in your compound or neighborhood, strive to meet up with your own payment and don’t always be the reason for any form of delays that may lead NEPA to disconnecting power, water board shutting down your supply or the waste management board locking up your compound or estate gate. Be handy on sanitation days. Keep your environment clean too.
If you are still single, watch the company you keep. Respect yourself a little especially with the opposite sex. If you are a womanizer, be smart enough to avoid the ladies in your hood, deal more with girls on the other side of town rather than your neighbors, otherwise, you will become the topic of discussion in your neighbourhood.
Single ladies should not turn their neighborhoods into micro brothels. We know men chase after beautiful girls, hanging around their streets or houses just to see them. Be very careful how many you welcome into your house. People are allowed to come visit you, but not every Tom, Dick and Harry.
And ladies, when he invites you out on a lunch or dinner date, eat what you can and avoid the temptation of an extra takeaway for your friends or sisters. Make sure to have some money on you should he disappoint or you have to wait for a longer time before he arrives.
If you are not mobile and joins your neighbor who’s mobile in their car to work every day, courtesy demands that you be ready and wait for them. They shouldn’t park their cars and be waiting for you to join them. Be at the bus stop, their house or where ever your meeting point is at least 10 minutes before departure.
Once in a while, when they drive into petrol station to refill, prepare to surprise them by insisting on paying for the fuel or you present them a gift or even cash in an envelope. Or just give their kids cash gift. Give them a token of appreciation for their kindness of lifting you to work almost free of charge.
Whenever you are out with friends, don’t shy away from contributing to the expenses no matter how little. Don’t always form busy when the bill arrives, meanwhile you consumed more than every other person on the table.
It is very easy to self sabotage by the way we behave and wonder why people treat us like they do. It’s time to look inwards.